Visualize Success:
- Envision yourself succeeding
- Spend time in thought to keep yourself focused on the goal
- When you clearly see you achieving this goal, you will then be able to achieve it
Right now, I am not sure what my "goal" is. I am trying to focus on getting this paralegal certificate and passing the Paralegal State Bar next April. I am working hard to get good grades in each one of my classes and as of right now, I have received an A in each class. My other goal needs to be weight loss again, but stress and depression don't make that an easy task. Finally, my last goal is to continue to build my self-confidence. I know I can do anything I set my mind to, but now I just have to believe it. I will do it because I am a child of God and He doesn't make mistakes. He loves me just as I am, so I need to learn to love me too.
Planning for Failure:
- Be Prepared for failure
- Recognize it as a setback
- Think/Write/Talk about it
- Stand up straight, take a deep breath, and move forward
- Don't let it surprise you!!
I feel like my first goal for the paralegal certificate is going well right now. I try not be a perfectionist all of the time and I do try to give myself a break if I don't get a grade that I hoped for. My third goal, of building self-confidence will take a lot of work, however, I do feel like I have done a better job, especially in class. Completing my degrees, I did everything online, so having to go into a classroom again scared me, but it has been good for me. I feel stronger. I have made a few friends and I usually look forward to going each night. I do know if I could focus more on my second goal of weight loss, that would be the best help for me. I need to refocus my energy on losing weight, eating better, paying off my debt (that is a huge weight that I carry), and I think the self-confidence will improve as well.
Assessing Your Progress:
- Think critically about how well you have done
- How was the progress made?
- Cycle back through the process if you don't feel comfortable with your progress
I think this is definitely an ongoing process. There are some things I feel great about and others I know that I still need to work on. I think I will probably go through many cycles and gain more knowledge about myself each time.
Accelerate the Process:
- Replace incremental goals and win with ambitious goals
- Time to think of 5-year dream
- What has to happen to get me from here to where I want to be?
- Be prepared for adversity
- Visualize and define each milestone
Instead of 5 years, I want to set a goal of 2 years. These are a few of the goals/milestones I would like to work on:
- Lose 100 pounds (or more) by the time Jeremy graduates in 2021
- Complete the Paralegal Certificate (December)
- Have my hysterectomy (after class ends in December)
- Talk to my doctor about possible depression
- Study and sit for the Paralegal State Bar test in April of 2020
- Find a Part Time job to start paying off debt
- Keep playing Givling to hopefully one day win and be able to pay off a small chunk of my school loans
- Once Credit Cards/Loans are paid off, starting putting extra towards house and school loans every month
- Make Handmade Christmas gifts for family and friends to show them that I care about them but not go into more debt
- Blog more...say it and DO IT!!
I am putting these here so I can come back and look at them and hopefully check a few of these off on my way to becoming a better me.
Celebrating You:
- Big Milestones deserve Big Rewards
- Match the size of the Reward to the Achievement
- I AM WORTH THIS REWARD!!
This Self-Confidence class as well as the additional classes I have taken as part of my IDP for this year has helped me tremendously. I have to believe that I am worthy of any improvement that I can give myself physically, emotionally, and mentally. I am worth it. Now it is up to me, and only me, to put in the work to get this done. I CAN DO THIS.
